wedding etiquette walking the bride down the isle?
April 4, 2010 by admin
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what is the wedding etiquette regarding father and step-father walking bride down the isle? Stepfather has been more of a father than the father but bride doesn’t want to hurt anyones feelings.
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If the bride wants to walk with both of them, she would have one on each side.
The bride can pick, there’s no rules anymore. You can have both
I am in the EXACT same situation. The place we’re holding our wedding at doesn’t have enough space for all three of us to walk down the aisle together (which is what I origionally thought would be the most fair), so we had to consider other “solutions.” My stepdad is a good sport and offered to give up his spot for my Dad, but I wouldn’t feel good about excluding him in that way. So my mom and I sat down and talked and we thought it’ll be best if I walk myself down the aisle. I think it’s the most appropriate thing to do in my situation and it’s suprisingly common. Especially for brides who aren’t living at home during the time they’re prepairing for their wedding. Now if I can just figure out how to do the father/dauther dance without hurting anyone’s feelings I’ll be good-to-go.
My sister had both our father and stepfather walk her down the aisle and no one’s feelings were hurt.
Bride is going to hurt someone’s feelings no matter what. It is possible for both of them to walk her down the aisle. She might even ask her mother, if that’s still possible.
I think you’ve gotten a lot of good answers here. There is no “right” way to do this, really. The bride can walk alone, both father and stepfather can walk with her (I think that would be really lovely if it works and everyone is cool with it!) or one could do the walking and the other get the first dance.
I will note that this is, in a way, a “good” problem to have. My father died the year before my (first) wedding. My brother walked me down the aisle and cried the whole way. My second wedding…I walked alone.
How about Grandfather? That’s a happy medium. But father and step-dad will need an explanation either way. Someone will be hurt, but love conquers all. OR, maybe they can both walk her. Lots more people are straying away from the traditional etiquitte anyway.
Either walk with your mother or both men.